I find it very easy to talk about other people in unpleasant ways. I talk about; what they’re doing or not doing, what they’re saying or not saying, what they’re seeing or not seeing, what they’re touching or not touching, what they’re smelling or not smelling.
At times, I complain about everyone and everything that they are doing wrong except what I am doing wrong!
At times, I see fault in everyone and in everything they do except my own fault!
At times, I blame everyone and I throw every blame at others except myself!
At times, I want things to be done my way only or they are not done!
At times, I want everyone to see things only in my lens!
At time, I want others to feel only what I feel!
At times, I want everyone to smell only what I smell!
I always think that I’ve to correct the other person but never to be corrected by that person or by others! I am highly critical about everyone and everything that everyone does except about what I do!
With this type of mentality, I sooner than later realized that my negative views about others were also generating negative views about me! I couldn’t achieve anything with anyone because I was seeing others as the problem whereas other people were also seeing me as the problem! I starting asking myself why are people running away from me, why do people not want to associate with me?
At this time, I was inspired to dig deep within myself. I was motivated to discern what was going wrong with me – why I complain about others the way that I do and why do people complain about me the way that they do?
With this in mind, I started talking, listening and hearing myself. This conscious inner dive took me to a world of new realities!
I noticed that I was dealing with something within me that was shading my perception about myself and about others – I was suffering from inner noise and self-righteousness. I noticed that;
Noise prevents me from hearing myself as it prevents me from hearing others.
Self-righteousness makes me to feel that I am right and everyone else is wrong!
Self-righteousness blurs my vision from seeing other realities and it blocks my mind from seeing the good intentions of others!
In my journey within, I sought peace with myself first before asking for peace from others!
In my journey within, I sought joy with myself first before expecting joy from others!
In my journey within, I sought to take control of my emotions, my anger, my frustrations, my failures and to deal with them first before blaming others!
In my journey within, I came to realize that I cannot give peace when I do not have peace with myself!
In my journey within, I came to realize that I cannot give happiness when I am not happy!
In my journey within, I came to the realization that I cannot give joy when I am not joyful!
In my journey within, I learned that I cannot make someone to smile when I do not smile with myself!
In my journey within, I learned that I cannot make fun of others when I do not make fun of myself!
My journey within enabled me to heal myself first before seeking to heal others!
My journey within helped me to stop seeking joy, peace, acceptance, happiness from others when I do not have these qualities within me!
In my journey within, I noticed that most of the pressures, the stress, the frustrations that come from outside me may just be the problems that other people are facing within themselves but rather than dealing with them, they project their problems at others with the hope that when the other person becomes angry, frustrated and disappointed, then, they can now divert their own frustrations and start pointing fingers!
I my journey within, I learned that I should not let external pressures from others or society to blur my inner peace because people/society can divert dealing with its problems but instead throw them at me!
My journey within has become a way of life for me that I have to talk to myself, listen to myself, correct myself and seek inner peace with myself first. But, in order to do this, I need to stay away from noise, internal or external so that I can focus on the essential-the search for inner peace, inner joy and inner happiness!
Very inspiring. Empathy with self and cultivating empathy towards others. This is the way to go, this is what makes the world better. This is what brings peace to the world, which is today on fire. Empathy.
Wonderful piece from a friend and senior.
It sounds like you’ve undertaken a profound journey of self-reflection and growth.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and insights. It takes a lot of courage to recognize and confront the patterns in our behavior, especially when they affect our relationships with others.
Your journey of self-discovery is inspiring. Acknowledging that our perceptions and reactions are often influenced by our inner state is a crucial step toward personal growth. It’s powerful that you’ve realized the importance of finding peace and joy within yourself before seeking them externally.
Your reflections on self-righteousness and the “noise” we sometimes carry are particularly striking. It’s easy to fall into the trap of blaming others without examining our own contributions to the dynamics at play.
I appreciate your commitment to creating a positive change in yourself. This kind of self-awareness can not only transform your own experiences but also positively influence those around you. Keep embracing this journey; it’s a valuable one!
Awesome write up brother. The Lord does not fail those who from their hearts sincerely trust in him and are very generous as you.
Bless you brother.